Turning Tables

It would seem counter intuitive for me to declare the my new-found perspective this semester has made me less tolerant, and less patient. Sadly at this moment it seems to be the case. What do I do? A good friend of mine, her mom has stage 4 cancer, her boyfriend (who refused to take that title...so really "guy she was dating") cheated on her. Not once but twice. Her dog was just put to sleep, oh yeah and her grandmother died too. And she is going to hold her head up high. She is having a rough time, and honestly I think "rough time" is an understatement. but now more than ever she is keeping her eyes on what is important. Is that just life experience or are younger generations becoming incapable? Did I baby her too much? Did we?

I know my sister is a strong woman. She is my sister so that goes without saying and I love her until the end of the earth. But I do not understand what the hell she sees in this d-bag. Pardon my French. She's gorgeous and he's a scruff. She's educating herself. He's wallowing at home in his ignorance. He's controlling, jealous, manipulative, and she can't see it. Ughhhhhhhh. Was it this painful for my mom and older sister to watch me make the mistakes a while back? Double Ugh. Once the break up cycle starts, I've learned... there's no going back. It doesn't work.

What I want to say:

Don't be a bitch for no reason. Really. Don't be.
Don't be petty or childish. I know that it seems like we lost a lot of our childhood but it doesn't mean you get it back now.
Don't be a bitch for no reason. Really, it's almost never necessary.
If you're not being heard, it's part your fault because you're allowing it.
Standing up for yourself is easy. Standing up for yourself while keeping cool, calm and collected and respectful is one of THE hardest things.
Don't settle for jealousy
Don't settle for insecurity.
Don't settle for someone you can't even 100% be true to yourself about.
Trust your family. Trust in them.
Don't waste your education. Or the money you're spending on it. Especially not over a boy.
Don't wait around. Life is too short.
Do always be true to yourself.
Do love. Everyone. Always.
Do have faith that this is the path you're meant to be on. So start enjoying the ride.
Do hope. For anything and everything.
Do dream for all that awaits you.
Do trust that it will get easier.
Do Believe that you are never, ever, alone.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dx7sLNyIeQk